Waiting for the sexual shoe to drop

On the off chance I haven’t been completely forgotten in the asexual blogosphere, I decided to post a few thoughts that I’ve had recently.

First thought:

It’s been eight months, and I’m still “waiting for the sexual shoe to drop”, so to speak. I’ve surprised myself in many ways- and I really do enjoy many aspects of affection. (Nonsexual intimacy is fantabulous IMO) I don’t know whether it’s just me being naturally oblivious or what, but I still don’t quite understand how all those fabulous forms of affection can somehow lead to sex.

That said, I’ve quasi-committed myself to being open in the future. Although I still feel borderline averse/indifferent, my desire to make my fiance happy might just be strong enough to override that. I suppose only time will tell…

Second thought:

Where do you draw the line between sexual and nonsexual intimacy anyway? Is it all subjective? I mean, I could very well engage in some hard core cuddling with no intention of going further- but isn’t it possible that my partner could interpret it as sexual intimacy? Are asexuals the only ones who’ve really thought about this distinction? Or need it?

Final thought:

I feel bad I haven’t updated this in so long, but my life in genuinely CRAZY busy now… and I bet it will be even more so as the wedding date grows closer. (For those keeping track, it’s August 22nd). I really want to keep this going though, because I would love to share my future thoughts as a married asexual.

So in short… I may not post as often as I’d like, but please don’t forget about me!

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Published:
06.09.09 / 11pm
Category:
relationships