Comments on: What asexuality is not… http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162 Sun, 05 Sep 2010 11:25:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3 By: theimpossiblek http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-980 theimpossiblek Wed, 08 Apr 2009 01:26:07 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-980 I agree with Ily... also, keep in mind that for asexuals, the contrast between sex in the media and in our minds affects us differently. I think it's human nature to project our own perspectives on others- and something every one, regardless of orientation, is guilty of... I agree with Ily… also, keep in mind that for asexuals, the contrast between sex in the media and in our minds affects us differently. I think it’s human nature to project our own perspectives on others- and something every one, regardless of orientation, is guilty of…

]]> By: ily http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-978 ily Tue, 07 Apr 2009 21:54:24 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-978 I have heard plenty of sexual people complain that our society is too sexual...especially when it comes to the constant pressure for women to be sexy. I have heard plenty of sexual people complain that our society is too sexual…especially when it comes to the constant pressure for women to be sexy.

]]> By: gazumo http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-976 gazumo Tue, 07 Apr 2009 14:35:24 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-976 As for imposing your views on others: only some people do this, but it really annoys me when asexuals complain about the sexual nature of our society and the constant reminders of sex in television and advertising etc. The thing is, the majority of people are sexual in some fashion, and if I am not allowed to express my sexuality I think I will go crazy. My point is that even asexuals "impose their personal experiences on others," which j didn't mention. As for imposing your views on others: only some people do this, but it really annoys me when asexuals complain about the sexual nature of our society and the constant reminders of sex in television and advertising etc. The thing is, the majority of people are sexual in some fashion, and if I am not allowed to express my sexuality I think I will go crazy. My point is that even asexuals “impose their personal experiences on others,” which j didn’t mention.

]]> By: theimpossiblek http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-974 theimpossiblek Mon, 06 Apr 2009 19:31:53 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-974 Well put, j :) And I like aXVX's analogy- it seems really ridiculous to accuse someone of liking the dentist just because they go there to get a filling or something... desire isn't the ONLY motivation to do things, after all... :-P Well put, j :)

And I like aXVX’s analogy- it seems really ridiculous to accuse someone of liking the dentist just because they go there to get a filling or something… desire isn’t the ONLY motivation to do things, after all… :-P

]]> By: j http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-973 j Mon, 06 Apr 2009 17:08:49 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-973 I totally agree. I think sexuality is given to us biologically. Asexuality is not any different from heterosexually, bisexually, and homosexuality. I'm so tired of people trying to impede on others sexuality just because their experience of coming into their own sexual truth is a certain way. Bisexuals seems to believe all other sexualities are just underdeveloped bisexuality, heterosexuals seem to think every other sexual expression or lack of is a perversion, homosexuals think bisexuals are just in transition to homosexuality and all of them exclude asexuality as a real orientation altogether. I really think people need to stop imposing their personal experiences on everyone else. I totally agree. I think sexuality is given to us biologically. Asexuality is not any different from heterosexually, bisexually, and homosexuality. I’m so tired of people trying to impede on others sexuality just because their experience of coming into their own sexual truth is a certain way. Bisexuals seems to believe all other sexualities are just underdeveloped bisexuality, heterosexuals seem to think every other sexual expression or lack of is a perversion, homosexuals think bisexuals are just in transition to homosexuality and all of them exclude asexuality as a real orientation altogether. I really think people need to stop imposing their personal experiences on everyone else.

]]> By: aXVX http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-967 aXVX Sat, 04 Apr 2009 23:43:35 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-967 I agree, why would someone do something for which one has no desire except if there were good reasons - like going to the dentist because it is in your interest. The thought of needing confirmation is heterosexist or at least 'sexualist' - i suppose a heterosexual or homosexual needs a desired sexual experience to confirm that they are what they imagine to be. I agree, why would someone do something for which one has no desire except if there were good reasons - like going to the dentist because it is in your interest. The thought of needing confirmation is heterosexist or at least ’sexualist’ - i suppose a heterosexual or homosexual needs a desired sexual experience to confirm that they are what they imagine to be.

]]> By: ily http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-962 ily Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:54:52 +0000 http://www.frogthis.com/ace-of-hearts/?p=162#comment-962 Having to experience sex doesn't make sense to me, either. Why would we have to jump through more hoops than anyone else? There are plenty of things that people say they "just know", and that's how I know I'm asexual. Even though I'm very anaylitcal, I just found something that described me decently and stuck with it. And really, that's already more hoops than most heterosexual people go through. Having to experience sex doesn’t make sense to me, either. Why would we have to jump through more hoops than anyone else? There are plenty of things that people say they “just know”, and that’s how I know I’m asexual. Even though I’m very anaylitcal, I just found something that described me decently and stuck with it. And really, that’s already more hoops than most heterosexual people go through.

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