Comments for Ace of Hearts

Comment on Unique, just like everyone else by Ily

Ily — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:58:44 +0000

Yay, you’re back! I’m not going to say I’ll NEVER get married…but I think it’s realistic to admit that it’s very unlikely. Anyway, to me, feeling like a new person and having a new lifestyle sound like great things, I’m happy for you!

Comment on Unique, just like everyone else by JJ

JJ — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:20:24 +0000

Ha, I’ve been suspecting the eventual publishing of such a post for, dare I say, nearly two years now.

Well said, ma’am.

Comment on Unique, just like everyone else by Julie

Julie — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:29:55 +0000

I can totally relate. But I would love to add that identities are supposed to change. So, yes, be yourself, and be aware that being yourself implies that you may change. But isn’t that exciting?

Comment on Doing it our way by theimpossiblek

theimpossiblek — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 07:39:12 +0000

Jessica - I was in a similar situation as you. Up until last year, I didn’t even bother with dating. I wasn’t looking for it either.
You’re totally on the right track though. Just focus on what matters most to you - it doesn’t matter what other people think. Don’t feel like love is reserved for the sexual. If the time is right, and the right person comes along, you’ll know it. And just so long as you’re true to yourself, it will work out in the end

Comment on Doing it our way by Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 06:28:53 +0000

…I have to admit, I absolutely thought (think?) the same thing that you did, that romance was reserved for the sexual, which encompasses everyone, straight, gay, bi, pan — except for me. I knew for sure ever since my teens how asexual I was (even before I knew the term), and when I kept asking, “Can’t you have romance without sex?” and the answer I kept getting back from the sexual people without me was, “…Well…romance always includes some sexual element.” And because of this, I was convinced so certainly over time that romance had nothing to do with me — because I was sure to hurt others, and be hurt myself, if I were ever to consider seeking it.

Because I have never seen examples of deep romantic feelings that didn’t go to sex sooner or later, I still have deep-seated distance from the idea that won’t be dispelled anytime soon. I wish I did have an example to learn from, to look to and admire, that I wouldn’t feel like an alien every time I came across it.

I know I’m asexual. But I don’t know if I’m aromantic or not. I’ve never had a formal date, and I’m already far along in college — I’ve never really felt moved enough to engage in it, but perhaps it may be because in my mind, the circumstances have failed far too often for it to ever be any more than pain and regret. I still am wondering.

But then again, there are other things in my life much more important that I am spending my time and heart on — and I think if I follow them, other matters in my life will work themselves out as I go along. I think that must be fine.

Comment on Asexy wallpapers - v.1 by Steven Richers

Steven Richers — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:47:26 +0000

What’d be cool to see is: design the rest of the suits like you did the Ace of Hearts.

Comment on Using biology to argue against same-sex (and no-sex) marriages by ExeCUTE

ExeCUTE — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:22:35 +0000

I cried when Prop 8 went through. I also nearly cried when I heard this : “In August 2009, Judge Walker heard further requests for intervenor status, and ordered a trial set for January 2010, which is set to address questions as wide-ranging as whether being gay diminishes one’s contribution to society, affects one’s ability to raise children, impairs judgment, or constitutes a mental disorder.”
I am a fierce ’straight ally ‘(I’m ace, but whatever) and I really don’t understand people’s double standards. ”Procreation is the essence of marriage?” Hello people, it doesn’t say anything about that in the wedding vows. It’s supposed to be about LOVE. Love, not having sex and kids.
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I hate humanity sometimes.

Comment on Not doing it - the best form of birth control by Mad_Scientist

Mad_Scientist — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 14:44:51 +0000

I use abstinence because I don’t want to have sex, but I’m pro birth control for everyone who does want it. Abstinence doesn’t seem to work for a lot of people, so they should have proper access to information and birth control.

I support condoms over the pill (although both is of course best) because of the STD protection, the lack of playing around with one’s internal chemistry and the fact that there’s less room for deceit. But people should just pick whatever works for them, and have the information to make this choice responsibly (and share said information with their sexual partner, obviously).

Comment on Duty or desire? by Isaac

Isaac — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 11:17:03 +0000

Ditto, Veralidaine. I’m also aromantic.

Comment on Duty or desire? by Veralidaine

Veralidaine — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:07:14 +0000

I must admit, I don’t really understand the whole ‘having to work to keep a relationship going’ thing. Maybe this is because I’m aromantic, but it just seems like why have a relationship if it isn’t something you want all the time and have to ‘work’ for? It just doesn’t make sense to me.